How to Pose for Wedding Photos: A Photographer’s Guide

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Posted by vidart
October 1, 2020

Nobody is photogenic at a wedding by accident. The couples who look relaxed in their photographs were given small, specific instructions by a photographer who then got out of the way. This is the guide we would give every couple before their engagement session: the handful of posture habits that fix 90% of “I hate how I look in photos,” the poses that work for every body and every pairing, and what to do with your hands.

The five habits that fix most photos

Weight on the back foot. Standing square to the camera with weight evenly split is how people stand for a passport photo. Shift your weight to the foot farther from the camera and let the front knee soften. Everything else follows.
Chin forward, then slightly down. Push your chin an inch toward the camera (it feels odd, it looks right) and tilt it down a touch. This defines the jaw and avoids the double-chin that comes from pulling the head back.
Space between arm and body. An arm pressed flat against the torso looks wider than it is. A hand on a hip, a hand in a pocket, holding the bouquet at hip height — anything that puts an inch of air between arm and body.
Breathe out. Most people inhale and hold when a camera appears, which lifts the shoulders and freezes the face. Exhale slowly as the photographer shoots; shoulders drop and the expression softens.
Look at each other, not the lens. For most of the portrait session the camera should be irrelevant. Talk, walk, laugh at something real. The best frames are between the poses.

Poses that work for everyone

The walk

Hold hands and walk slowly toward or past the camera, talking. Then walk away and look back once. It produces movement, natural expressions and a flattering three-quarter angle without anyone having to “pose.” We use it at every wedding, usually first, because it breaks the ice.

The forehead rest

Face each other, foreheads touching or nearly, eyes closed or down. Hands on waists or holding both hands between you. It reads as intimate without being staged and works in any light, including the dark corner of a reception.

The wrap from behind

One partner stands slightly in front; the other wraps arms around their waist from behind and rests their chin on the shoulder. The front partner places hands over the arms around them. Both can look at the camera or the front partner can look back over the shoulder.

The sit

Any step, bench, wall or curb. Sitting changes the geometry entirely and gives the hands something to do. Angle knees toward each other, lean in slightly, and keep the back straight rather than slumped.

The dip and the spin

Only if it suits you — and only with the photographer counting you in. A spin in a dress with movement in it, or a confident dip, gives one or two frames of real energy. Do it twice, no more.

Hands, bouquets and things to hold

Bouquet at hip or belly-button height, not chest height; elbows relaxed. Held too high it hides the dress and lifts the shoulders.
Hands in pockets with the thumb out, or one hand holding a lapel or jacket button; never both arms straight down.
When holding hands, interlace loosely rather than gripping; relaxed fingers photograph better than tense ones.
If there is nothing to hold, touch: fix a tie, adjust a veil, hold a face.
Rings: hands stacked on a shoulder or a chest, left hand on top, fingers slightly curved.

Faces and expressions

A forced smile lives in the mouth; a real one lives in the eyes. The simplest trick is to have something to react to: the photographer tells a terrible joke, you whisper something in your partner’s ear, you look at each other and try not to laugh. Between shots, reset by relaxing your whole face, then look up. If you tend to blink, close your eyes and open them on a count of three.

Group and wedding party photos

Stagger heights and leave a little space between people; a tight straight line looks like a lineup.
Angle everyone slightly toward the center, weight on the outside foot.
For large groups, the back row stands on a step or a slope so every face is visible.
Give the group a shared action for the last frame: look at the couple, cheer, walk toward the camera.

Before the day

Do an engagement session. It is a rehearsal for all of this.
Practice the chin-forward-and-down move in a mirror once; it feels strange until you see it.
Tell your photographer about anything you are self-conscious about. Angles, light and lens choice solve most of it quietly.
Wear shoes you can walk in for the portrait session and change into the painful ones afterward.
Plan the portraits for good light: an hour before sunset outdoors, or window light indoors.

Most of this becomes automatic after the first ten minutes with a photographer who directs well. See our wedding photography page for how we run a portrait session, and the timeline guide for where portraits fit in the day.

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Frequently asked questions

How do I look natural in wedding photos?

Shift your weight to the back foot, push your chin slightly forward and down, keep a little space between your arms and your body, breathe out as the shutter goes, and look at your partner rather than the lens. A photographer who gives you something to do — walk, talk, whisper — will do the rest.

What should I do with my hands in wedding photos?

Give them a job: hold the bouquet at hip height, put a hand in a pocket with the thumb out, hold a lapel, touch your partner. Avoid arms hanging straight down or pressed against your sides.

How do you pose a couple with a big height difference?

Use stairs, a seated pose, or have the taller partner lean against a wall or stand on lower ground. The forehead rest and the wrap from behind both work at any height difference.

Should we look at the camera or each other?

Mostly each other. Aim for a small number of frames looking into the lens for parents and the mantelpiece, and spend the rest of the session interacting; those are the images couples end up framing.

Do we need an engagement session before the wedding?

It is optional but worth it. An hour of practice with your photographer makes the wedding-day portraits faster and more relaxed, and you get a set of images for save-the-dates and the guest book.

How to Pose for Wedding Photos: A Photographer’s Guide to Looking Natural